tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post6745672583598036032..comments2023-10-14T07:43:42.910-07:00Comments on "Faith makes things possible...not easy.": Guilt.Faith makes things possiblehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15419255529366854073noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-56765505031215237902013-07-03T12:54:31.910-07:002013-07-03T12:54:31.910-07:00Thanks ladies for your comments-it's so reassu...Thanks ladies for your comments-it's so reassuring to be reminded (yet again!!!) that we are not alone in this journey of life...and whether we share a common bond of being sisters in Christ, IFers, former IFers, mamas, etc...the realization that we aren't alone gives us so much strength and courage especially during the difficult times! Faith makes things possiblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15419255529366854073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-92185009699306968862013-07-03T12:51:36.291-07:002013-07-03T12:51:36.291-07:00Hebrews:
Yes! I joke that someways I feel like a r...Hebrews:<br />Yes! I joke that someways I feel like a rock star so in control and then others day I look around and think I have no clue!!! I hear it doesn't quite go away either...-always a learning process!Faith makes things possiblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15419255529366854073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-52184109236047855642013-07-03T12:50:21.692-07:002013-07-03T12:50:21.692-07:00Rebecca-I don't think you understand how it fe...Rebecca-I don't think you understand how it feels to be told to go ahead and share...good times and bad...because that dern guilt was def something that had me holding back! You should know that I think of you often and am offering up many a hard times, prayers, etc for you and your hubby!Faith makes things possiblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15419255529366854073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-90266698471269157062013-07-03T12:48:26.751-07:002013-07-03T12:48:26.751-07:00Ecce fiat: so very true. Guilt is so suffocating ...Ecce fiat: so very true. Guilt is so suffocating and most definitely keeps us from living our vocations fully! Thanks for the prayers-ill def keep you in my prayers also!Faith makes things possiblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15419255529366854073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-85806154423290314772013-07-03T12:46:15.189-07:002013-07-03T12:46:15.189-07:00"We have permission to live out our vocations..."We have permission to live out our vocations like "normal" people..."<br />This statement is dead on!!Faith makes things possiblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15419255529366854073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-80503591253271564032013-07-03T12:45:09.252-07:002013-07-03T12:45:09.252-07:00Kat-I remember having the exact same feelings also...Kat-I remember having the exact same feelings also! And I agree IF definitely messes with ones emotions...ugh! Isn't it enough to deal with the fact that our bodies are wonky but to add on emotional stuff also...it's a wonder we ever survive! Faith makes things possiblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15419255529366854073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-44744615226209125882013-07-02T19:03:27.480-07:002013-07-02T19:03:27.480-07:00What I wish someone had told me about motherhood--...What I wish someone had told me about motherhood--you will never feel like you've got it down. As soon as you do, something new creeps up. I had to learn how to be ok with never feeling like I had mastered it. Because really, nobody ever truly masters it. You just learn how to be easy on yourself when you've done the best you can do. Does that make sense? And yes, I get this guilt. I still struggle with it sometimes. It is its own animal, and it takes time to figure out how to process it. Hebrews 11:1https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235249884008648163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-10958424577190104022013-07-02T16:29:13.992-07:002013-07-02T16:29:13.992-07:00I feel the guilt too, sometimes. You are not alone...I feel the guilt too, sometimes. You are not alone! Motherhood is one of the greatest joys I've known, but it is HARD! In those moments, I remember how hard it was to wait and offer up prayers for those waiting. Thanks for the reminder to continue to do so!Isaiah 55:8-9https://www.blogger.com/profile/14499199447079790203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-16652329460420459932013-07-02T11:34:38.336-07:002013-07-02T11:34:38.336-07:00I love what Ecce Fiat said about not having the fr...I love what Ecce Fiat said about not having the freedom to say " "This is hard." or "This is great." Full stop."<br /><br />I've told you this before, but I love your joy in parenting your sweet Faith, since the moment you announced your pregnancy, I've loved your joy. It reminds me why this still hurts so bad, and in a sense gives me permission to feel this pain. I am missing something amazing and wonderful, and also the hardest thing I will ever do in my life should I get to do it. Please share the hard times, it lets us know how we can pray for you as you so beautifully pray for us!<br />Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04738076740941616678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-51126065691506450172013-07-02T11:11:42.815-07:002013-07-02T11:11:42.815-07:00When I remember to (sometimes it is hard for me to...When I remember to (sometimes it is hard for me to remember), I also offer up my day/frustrations/etc for those suffering (I mention IF gals specifically, so hopefully they get the most out of it, LOL).<br />You are totally right on the being overwhelmed early on. I felt the exact same way. <br />All in His Perfect Timinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00300978285191861049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-22534664747652274522013-07-02T08:05:14.428-07:002013-07-02T08:05:14.428-07:00I'm still on the IF side of things, but I some...I'm still on the IF side of things, but I sometimes feel a similar guilt for complaining about my husband - this or that little thing he does to annoy me - when I have several very dear friends who long to be married. But then again, marriage is hard sometimes! And I have no doubt parenting is too, even though I haven't experienced it yet. And I agree with Kat: sometimes I feel guilty for all the things we can do (travel, sleep in late, etc) that our friends with kids can't. Guilt is everywhere, it seems! And it's so smothering. Suffocating. Like it doesn't give you the freedom to say, "This is hard." or "This is great" full stop. All that is to say, I'll pray your guilt lessens and you can just be yourself, wife, mother, woman, etc. in the good and bad moments =)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00145429070443201781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-78595108094429243002013-07-02T07:58:13.313-07:002013-07-02T07:58:13.313-07:00I remember that feeling of guilt the first few mon...I remember that feeling of guilt the first few months when mothering my little miracle baby I waited 5 years for was sometimes so difficult. When I let go of the guilt, it really did help. Motherhood is beautiful but so difficult at times, especially in the beginning. I think it is a wonderful idea to offer your hard times up.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03354091913442295076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-51654397640452051782013-07-02T06:24:47.554-07:002013-07-02T06:24:47.554-07:00I too have felt that guilt. It is hard to grasp. I...I too have felt that guilt. It is hard to grasp. I felt the same guilt if I would complain about the pregnancy because I knew so many who deserved to be where I was. Being a parent is the hardest job ever but it is also the most rewarding. It is just something I sometimes have to remind myself of.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09452369042062380443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-66730401187946809062013-07-02T03:56:34.272-07:002013-07-02T03:56:34.272-07:00I feel the same way. I had no idea how HARD mothe...I feel the same way. I had no idea how HARD motherhood was going to be. Nobody tells you how hard it is to go with no sleep and not be able to walk out of the room for 5 seconds. I, too, feel like my heart could burst; I love this little guy so much. But, man, is it hard work being a mom. In the hardest times, I have referred to my baby as a dictator, lol. I feel guilty, too, for feeling this way given that I cried, pleaded, and begged for 5 years for this, and there are so many people who are still waiting for their babies. Hopefully, they can pray for us, and we can pray for them, and Mother Mary is praying for us all! I know my prayer every day is "please help me be a mother like Mary; help me to have her loving patience and understanding; help me to do what she would do" imusthaveprayedforpatiencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03099424250039253624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-48740227079367828352013-07-01T21:36:28.543-07:002013-07-01T21:36:28.543-07:00p.s. this is "Sarah" from "Sarah...p.s. this is "Sarah" from "Sarah's Journal".Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03625746219907319100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-75443534238927739282013-07-01T21:36:06.870-07:002013-07-01T21:36:06.870-07:00I think it's fair to say that those who long f...I think it's fair to say that those who long for a good thing... a certain vocation or a child are at the top of the list, I think... aren't necessarily longing for a fantasy (although some "outsiders" may condescendingly like to point out that the desires of your heart aren't "all roses"). Most who suffer from IF are not clueless to the hardships but are longing for the real thing... and the real thing ALWAYS includes hardship and suffering. Of course no human being ever really wants that part, but it's not like those who are asked to wait are somehow supposed to then be held to some impossible standard to enjoy every second once their longings come true... it's just hard to remember that after so much waiting that we have permission to live out our vocations like "normal" people :)! And the guilt creeps in.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03625746219907319100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7735179865791238240.post-48993678730323633292013-07-01T21:28:01.491-07:002013-07-01T21:28:01.491-07:00I think that IF can really mess us up emotionally ...I think that IF can really mess us up emotionally whether we cross over or not. There are times I have guilt for enjoying the fact that we don't have children right now, though we wish we could. Hang in there and I think it is a great idea to offer up your hard times! Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13670331855264293102noreply@blogger.com